Sunday, February 9, 2014

Struggle within

Why is it that others rarely see our deepest struggles?

Sometimes it’s because we don’t allow others to see or know of our struggles. And, sometimes it’s because others seemingly don’t want to see our struggles, as it’s too painful, too real to witness. After all, most want to believe in ideals, that those we love and care about will never face struggles.

Yet, we all have struggles. The parent. The high school senior. One with a disability. The recovering addict. The couple that just celebrated their 50th anniversary. The financially strapped. The ultra wealthy. The minority. The majority. We all have struggles. Different, yes. But, struggles, no less.

And, there’s a beauty and pride to it all that too few realize. See, when we’re struggling, it feels like a battle for survival, but we’re truly thriving. People who don’t struggle at some point in life aren’t learning, growing, trying to better themselves. In this way, the struggle is emblematic of a victor, not a victim.

And, all of this leaves us, as those who struggle, with a question of ultimate integrity: If we don’t allow others to know of our struggles, how will they not feel alone in theirs?

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

By Williamson

Thursday, February 6, 2014

Karma is a bitch!

I was sitting here and I have never done this before but as I reviewed todays stories on my other blog I felt that need to share something!

Have you ever been betrayed? Has someone you loved, adored or trusted  took out the rug from under you, leaving you winded and ready to vomit all over yourself? If you haven’t, get ready because it’s going to happen. Getting royally screwed over by someone you trust is a rite of passage much like losing your virginity and getting really, really stoned. It’s the most painful nail in the naivete coffin but a necessary one. You can’t go through this world thinking everyone has your best interests at heart because they don’t. There are people in this world whose sole purpose is to make you realize things you never wanted to figure out. There are people who not only don’t want the best for you, they want to inflict pain and sorrow on to your life. Pricks!

No one’s ready to learn this lesson. It can be, in many ways, the hardest one for you to get. We enter this world wide open and ready for anything. We believe that no one is going to hurt us, at least not deliberately, and we fail to understand how special and fleeting this belief actually is. In my more nostalgic moments, I yearn to see the world like I did when I was 12. I was an untouched teenager back then, ready to love anyone that would have me. 32 years later, I’m not made of the same parts.

We love the wrong people sometimes.

We put our trust in people who would throw it away in a second, but that’s okay! Assholes serve a purpose.

They’re important to our development and we should thank them!

 “I appreciate you royally screwing me over,  Now I know to watch out for myself! Love you too…”

Okay, don’t tell them that you love them but seriously, you can learn so much about yourself when you get betrayed. You grow up so much in an instant. It seems like we learn more from all the bad things than when we’re happy and everything’s going great. It would be great if it weren’t this way but it is what it is.

I don’t mean to paint a bleak picture of humanity. Just because someone screws you over doesn’t mean the whole world is out to get you. Adopting a hard shell and a “One man is an island” attitude doesn’t do anyone favors, especially yourself. Like with everything else, it’s about achieving a balance. You don’t want to become bitter and jaded but you also don’t want to be Peter Pan when you’re thirty. When giving away your love and trust to people, you just have to ask yourself, “Do they deserve it?” Because sometimes they don’t and you need to be aware of that. You have to weed out the people who will suck you dry and take care of yourself first and the only way you can come to this conclusion is by being dealing with a few shitheads first. They’re necessary evils meant to teach you a valuable lesson.

You will never be the same after someone betrays you and that can be a bitter pill to swallow. But it’s important to realize that everyone serves a purpose in your life and that you’re better off knowing someone’s true colors than not. Understanding that people can be really crappy will take you far in life. Remember as my wife often says…Karma is a bitch!