Rather, I mean that if there’s a cycle of dysfunction, we must have the courage, wisdom, and tenacity to say, Enough! This destructive pattern not only stops with me, but actually changes with me. It’s a really powerful process where you, as a lone person, can change your life, your family tree, and the lives of many around you.
We unfortunately are cyclical creatures, following the pack. Although we have free will and astounding amounts of opportunity, we rarely use it. We know that our life paths are alarmingly dictated by those of most influence in our lives. The surest way to be a parent is if your parents were parents. The surest way to become an alcoholic is have parents who were alcoholics. And, the surest way to being a terrible boss is to be groomed by a terrible boss. These risk factors create systemic, generational wrongs – and they go on and on.
And, it’s up to us – and only us – to stop them. No rule book said that if my parents were uneducated, impoverished, alcoholic-addicts, I had to follow that path. Sure, statistics said YES. However, your not a statistic unless you make yourself one. I’m an individual. And, I’ve long known that I alone had the power to right the wrongs in my life – and I continue working at that every day. This is my life and no one dictates its potential but me. This took a long time for me to discover but I have. I had to have me world broken down and who knows if my world will ever fully recovery but today is the beginning. Its time to be happy again, time to be happy for real. Be true to myself and work hard at staying true without reliving the path that I once followed
Breaking the cycle isn’t easy. I'm been there, and it’s a never-ending process. It’s a difficult journey because there’s no road map and usually no support. I am lucky however because on my journey my wife has decide to stay with me and help me see it through.
It’s like walking on ice for decades, where as long as you stay up, you’re fine, and the fear of losing footing keeps you laser focused on every move you make. Yet, the struggle is motivating, righting wrongs is empowering, and breaking cycles is liberating. You may have been born into it, but you can likewise grow out of it. Heritage, genetics, environment, upbringing – you can be more than all of it. Right the wrongs, break the cycles, and live to your potential.
On a final note; I want to say one more thing. A idol of my passed away Robin Williams. He truly was one of the people in this world who made me happy. He made me laugh and his energy was intoxicating but unknown to most where his demons; demons which seemed to have won a fight.
What I ask is this; please remember we all have demons, we all face demons each and every day. No one is pure. Be true to yourself and face those demons; find help because you are not alone. Be remembered as Robin is; for what you gave to this world, not how you left it.